It's Not Always the Quiet Ones: 8 Signs of Depression Often Missed

by Allen Gil December 24, 2014

It's Not Always the Quiet Ones: 8 Signs of Depression Often Missed

With horrible and unimaginable shootings on the rise, some of us can’t even wrap our heads around the fact that people can actually think of and carry out such horrendous acts causing widespread devastation and panic.

But the reality is, depression is at an all time high and is not going away anytime soon. In addition to that, it’s not always the quiet ones. In fact, more and more Americans are suffering from depression on a daily basis.

According to Everyday Health,

About 9% of Americans are living with one form of depression or another.

While the percentage may seem small, that’s roughly 29 million Americans. This fact alone should be more startling than some of the stories you read or hear about in the news. 29 million Americans are suffering on a day to day basis with little to no help in sight.

From personal experience, I lost a best friend to suicide at the young age of 20. She was beautiful, outgoing, lovable, extremely smart and well-liked and most importantly, none of us saw it coming.

While we all want to believe that depression is easy to spot, it just isn’t the case anymore.

Plus, therapy can be downright exhausting and the cocktail of prescriptions aimed at balancing things out always seems to make things worse until the right combination is found. The problem is, the right combination journey can be an absolute nightmare for many, leading to so many people living without the proper help they need.

Before we lose another loved one or experience another mass shooting, it’s important to realize there are several hidden signs of depression that go unnoticed everyday.

Here are 8 symptoms you may have overlooked:

Often Missed Signs of Depression
  • Lack of Energy
  • Forgetfulness or Lack of Concentration
  • Insomnia: Think Early Wake-ups With Difficulty Going Back to Sleep
  • Oversleeping Altogether
  • Agitation or Irritability Over Little Things
  • Low Sex Drive
  • Physical Symptoms May Surface As Well: Headaches, Back Pain, Digestive Upsets, Menstruation Issues, Chronic Pain That Never Seems to Go Away
  • Indifferent Moods: Neither Happy or Unhappy, Just Blah
The common thing to notice is subtle changes. Have you noticed something slightly off with your loved one? Do you feel like you’re just not yourself lately? Are tiny things setting you off and your emotions seem to run wild almost completely out of control sometimes?

Getting Help is Not as Easy as You’d Think

Sure, there are doctors and therapists out there who treat depression and you can find one in any city these days. But for someone who is depressed, this thought alone may cause anxiety or even provoke a fight.

Be careful how you approach a loved one if you are concerned that they may be depressed. Your best bet may be to speak to a therapist prior to approaching your loved one. This simple step could start the conversation on the right foot versus pushing your loved one further away and possibly further into depression.

Alternative Options

If you suspect that depression is starting to creep up into your life, it may be hard for you to admit that getting help is necessary. Maybe you don’t like the idea of taking prescription medicines or have had bad experiences in the past. Maybe you don’t want your spouse or children to see you struggling since you are the rock for your family.

If traditional therapy seems hopeless, daunting, or just downright impossible, I encourage you to seek alternative treatments.

One organization—Art Reach Connecticut— that I volunteered at is pioneering unconventional ways to treat depression and mental health issues.

With Art Reach, you are not forced to take prescriptions that you don’t enjoy living on. Through comedy, painting, dance, music and more, you can beat depression without feeling like a zombie on a daily basis.

On the surface, people living with depression may seem like they have everything together. They may be outgoing and happy or even super busy and always moving. The point is, it’s not always the quiet ones.

Depression Symptoms

Take the time to appreciate those around you and pay it forward. Listen to the stories of those you come into contact with and make it your goal this New Year’s to make each person you meet smile.

You’d be surprised how the little things can either ruin or make someone’s day.

Allen Gil
Allen Gil


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