Well, I have got one heck of a surprise for you brother, not only does spending time with your friends make you smile, it turns out it actually improves your physical and mental health. That’s right, pay close attention because I am about to give you the ultimate “Hall Pass” that you can share with your wife in the event you need a little guy time.
Let’s face it guys, when it comes to improving your health, we can all do with every little bit of help we can get, so when someone as esteemed as Dr. Robin Dunbar, a reputable psychologist and director of Oxford University’s social and evolutionary neuroscience research group, suggests men require a minimum of two “guys’ nights” a week to maintain good health, who are we to argue?
The sad truth is, the majority of us men are only hanging out with our dearest friends at most once per week. Adding in one extra day per week can make all the difference, especially if you are able to have varied interactions with your buddies, like playing a game of basketball, chatting (whining) about the challenges of raising your 2 year old or having a good laugh at the expense of Bob’s football team losing 62 to 14. Laughter is important because of its ability to produce the endorphin surges that give people a sense of well-being.
Tell that to your buddy next time he gets bent out of shape because you made fun of the shirt his wife made him wear out. Geoffrey Greif, D.S.W., a professor at the University of Maryland and author of Buddy System: Understanding Male Friendships, says that, "Some men feel more comfortable with other men than with women.” Time with the guys can be less intense than being with your girlfriend or wife, who may make more emotional requests. And some men feel like they can "be themselves" around their male friends, says Grief.