4 Reasons to Ask for What You Want in The Bedroom

by Allen Gil February 14, 2015

4 Reasons to Ask for What You Want in The Bedroom

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Why are women so afraid to ask for what they want in the bedroom?  I mean, seriously, it's not like any of us come with a manual of instructions. At some point in your life you've probably had to figure out what does it for you.  Think about it: if it took you a while to perfect this skill for yourself, and it's your own parts, how long could it take for your significant other to figure out what you like as well?

What most women don't realize is that if you're able to open up and ask for what you want in the bedroom, not only will your love life benefit, but your entire life outside of the bedroom will reap the rewards as well.

Here are 4 reasons why asking for what you want in the bedroom will benefit you outside of the bedroom.

1. Asking your partner for what you want in the bedroom will lead to more satisfying sexy time.


Once you realize that asking for what you want will lead to you getting what you want, you'll start to ask and expect to be given what you want in all areas of your life.  Want a better job?  Ask for it.  Want a raise?  Ask for it.  When you feel pleasure of any kind, like asking for and getting what you want, it's so stimulating to your brain that your brain stays primed to respond to pleasure in a way that reinforces pleasure. That's one loop I wouldn't mind staying stuck in!

2. Asking for what you want in the bedroom and receiving it will lead to a higher satisfaction of life in general.


Orgasms release all of those feel good endorphins, and the more you flood your brain with that, the more you'll want to seek out healthy activities that release endorphins.  You will be happier and you life in every way will become satisfyingly happy.  You will find pleasure in the ordinary every day cycle of life because you are living out the life you have wanted and haven’t asked for.

3. Once you become aware of what does it for you, you will also become aware of what doesn't do it for you.

Through that understanding of yourself, you'll set boundaries that are healthy for you and keep you sexually fulfilled.  This understanding of yourself will extend to other areas of your life as well leading to a happier and more satisfying life.  (Discover why setting healthy boundaries is a building block to a healthy life:  thepersonaldevelopmentshow.com)

4. Openly talking about sexual desires is a great way to build trust with your partner.


By doing this, you'll be opening yourself up to another person and sharing your wants and needs.  It's hard to trust someone and when you know you can, it's a wonderful thing.  Asking for what you want in the sheets will build intimacy and it's this intimacy that will enhance the connection between your partner and you.  This connection will allow for greater feel-good endorphins and who wouldn't want more of those floating around in our head?

Alright ladies and gentlemen, if you haven't mustered up the courage to this point, now is the time to start asking!  A more fulfilling life is waiting for you in there!

#NOWWHAT Choose one area of your life that you'd like to improve on (could be your relationship or job) and ask for what you want. Don't know what you want? Sit down and explore what could be missing or what's holding you back. After you identify that, go ahead and ask for what you want! It's that simple.

Allen Gil
Allen Gil


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