Admit It, You Want Someone Just Like You

by Allen Gil March 10, 2015

Admit It, You Want Someone Just Like You

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Do you have enough narcissism to date yourself?

Let’s see, how many “selfies” did you take so that you could post one perfect photo? Did you post that photo to Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Tinder, and Snapchat? Do you think that you are more attractive than your friends? Or smarter, or funnier, or more appealing than your friends? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you my friend, are a narcissist and would date yourself.

It’s not that bad of a thought though. The so-called “Millennials,” or kids born in the 1980’s to 2000’s, are showing us how to be more into ourselves and appreciate ourselves that much more. They are the generation that invented the whole “duck face in the mirror” picture phenomenon which I still don’t get!

Physical Attraction.


So if you were able to actually date yourself, what would that look like? Depending on your partner preferences, would this person be a male or a female? There have been a number of studies in the science world that claim people are attracted to someone that is physically similar to themselves.

This isn’t the first time that theory has been thrown around. Dr. Sigmund Freud theorized that we are attracted to our opposite sex parent and are seeking them out in our current relationships. ICK!! Yet, when you think about it, you like the way you look, right?

Would you say you are attractive? I would. So really, is it that bad that you might find someone that looks like you, an attractive person? After all, your parents and siblings are the first people you see in your life and you learn to trust and depend on them so is it any wonder that you would find people that look like you or your parents/siblings attractive enough to date?



What about personality? The whole “opposites attract” thing doesn’t really work does it? In our mind, we like the idea of a partner that is our other half, good at the things we are not good at, and is  able to balance us out. (Note the level of narcissism in that sentence? All about me me me and how someone needs to balance me out!)

However, are you really going to stay with someone you have nothing in common with? No, you aren’t. We want someone that likes the same type of toys that we do. We also want someone that will get our jokes and laugh at them and if you are with someone that you would describe as your polar opposite, they may not get your jokes and then you feel kind of silly even telling them in the first place.

At least your doppelganger would appreciate your sense of humor.


Carrying on the theme of dating someone that thinks the way you do, wouldn’t it be awesome if you had a partner that was your personal cheerleader? You can pat yourself on the back all you want, but when a person that you care about does it for you, it feels so much better. If you could date you, you would have the perfect person that would get you.

Are you starting to see my point and realizing that you are the perfect person to date you? They would bring you the perfect junk food in the middle of the night, be able to support you with kindness or tough love when appropriate, and be someone you would have a ton in common with and that you would actually want to spend all your time with.

Allen Gil
Allen Gil


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