You have fallen in love with the perfect person. This person is everything you want and more. This time you have found the “one.” You are sure of it. You rave about this person to friends and family and they just act normal, not sharing your excitement.
They might even bring up all the other times you have met “the one.” You just laugh and shrug it off because you know this is the big “one.” But didn’t you think you knew that with each person you fell head over heels for? Why didn’t those other “ones” work out if they were the “one?”
Could it be that you are addicted to the act of falling in love? Could you be a love psychopath? A psychopath? Really? Is there such a thing? Certainly you have seen or heard about people that have hurt someone because they were rejected. Love makes you do some crazy things and think even crazier thoughts.
Love sick, crazy in love, and blinded by love are real feelings and experiences. Intense, passionate feelings of love really can mess with your mind and body—from affecting the way you talk, to the way you walk. So how do you know if you are a serial lover? If you answer yes to three or more of the questions below you might be.
The thought of being alone is enough to drive you into the arms of Mr. Super Wrong. He’s the guy that hurts you over and over again and treats you with no respect. But hey, he’s there for you and doesn’t make you feel alone so it works, right?
Is finding love the only thing you think about? So much so that at work you are on all the dating sites looking for love that you never get any work done?
Are you altering your personality based on what your present partner likes and dislikes, so that they will love you more? Have you changed so much that your friends and family do not know or understand you anymore?
If you answered yes to some of these questions then perhaps you go a little loco in the head where love is concerned. A healthy relationship is about two people sharing their individual worlds and creating a world together that makes both of them equals and happy. Anything else is simply not worth it.
Allen Gil
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